Picnics & dogs...

are a very common combination. Throw into the mix that dogs often either eat peanut butter directly (or its added into their food).. and you potentially get anaphylaxis at a park!

Today we went to our friends birthday party at Golden Gate park. He had invited his friends, their kids and dogs.

Since L had anaphylaxis to a dog a few years ago, I have always been leery around dogs, especially knowing that their diet often includes PB. So today.. when a well-meaning friend was pushing my son toward an unknown dog, I had to intervene and explain that he was allergic to dogs, and peanut butter. Thank goodness I did that, as we then found out this dog has PB daily! A nice strategic lick on my son's face could have resulted in an ER visit.

Every now it feels like I have food allergies under control; we know the drill, the precautions, the dangers, the symptoms.. then something so simple as this comes up, and it throws me for a loop. What if I hadn't asked? What if it was just my husband supervising the kids that day? Would he have asked? How cautious do I need to teach my son to be around unknown animals?

He needs to have a balanced life, but we must also keep him safe, and teach him how to keep himself safe. Explaining to a 5yo how to be safe but be included in activities is hard.. where is the balance? How can I explain it when even I don't really understand myself?

Today he asked "Mom, the dog's paw touched the soccer ball, so I can't touch it any more". I explained it was only if the dog licked him that he may have a reaction.

There were questions along the same vein yesterday, when my kids discovered our neighbours have a walnut tree. "Mom, the squirrels are bringing walnuts from our neighbours tree into our back yard. Daddy said the squirrels think its safe here, so they bring the nuts here. But its not safe for me".

He understood you can't ask a squirrel not to bury nuts in your back yard. But to explain that it is (probably?!) ok for him to pick up an uncracked nut, look at it and then throw it away, but an open nut on his skin might cause a severe reaction?

I know there are lots of other parents out there that have the same worries, but tonight I feel so alone!